Many couples worry something’s wrong when desire fades or feels mismatched. This post shares key ideas from Emily Nagoski—like sexual brakes and accelerators, spontaneous vs responsive desire, and the importance of context—to help couples understand and reconnect with less pressure and more clarity.

If you and your partner keep having the same arguments, you may be stuck in a negative cycle—a repeating pattern that leads to conflict and emotional distance. These cycles can feel impossible to break, but understanding them is the first step toward change. In this post, I explain how negative cycles form, what drives them, and how theories like Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method can help couples shift out of blame and reactivity. With insight and small adjustments, it’s possible to move from feeling stuck to feeling closer.

Tired of going in circles with your partner over the same arguments? This post breaks down why everyday conflicts, like being late, can spiral into emotional battles — and how to stop the cycle. Drawing on insights from Esther Perel, we explore the traps of confirmation bias, double standards, and “always/never” thinking, offering practical tools to help you fight smarter, not harder. If you’re ready to shift from blame to connection and make your relationship feel less like a battlefield, this one’s for you.

What does it really mean to heal? In this soulful conversation, Alain de Botton unpacks the roots of our inner critical voice, the struggle to connect with emotions, and why we get stuck in difficult relationships. A reflective and practical look at how healing helps us show up more fully—for ourselves and for others.

It’s either simple, or it is complicated. Some relationships need small adjustments, while others require deeper healing. The key is recognising what’s needed and committing to the process.

A new year offers couples a fresh start, but rigid resolutions can quickly lead to frustration. Setting intentions instead encourages mindfulness, flexibility, and mutual support, making it easier to stay motivated and grow together without unnecessary pressure.

In this post, we explore twelve essential strategies for preventing conflict escalation in relationships. From setting boundaries to practicing active listening, these techniques are designed to promote understanding and maintain a calm and respectful connection.

Micro-cheating may seem harmless, but it's the subtle actions and intentions that can erode trust in a relationship. In this post, I explore the signs and implications of micro-cheating and how to navigate these gray areas in a partnership.

Emotional affairs can be just as devastating to a relationship as physical infidelity. Leading therapists like Esther Perel, Dr. John Gottman, and Dr. Shirley Glass provide valuable insights into the complexities and consequences of emotional infidelity.

Navigating the Summer holidays as a couple can be challenging, but prioritizing open communication and shared activities can strengthen your bond. By balancing personal downtime with quality time together, you can turn potential stress into an opportunity for growth and connection.

Rebound relationships can offer a quick emotional band-aid post-breakup, but they often come with the risk of unresolved feelings complicating new connections. While they may provide temporary comfort, it's crucial to recognize when it's a genuine bond or just a distraction from healing.

Curious about non-monogamy but not sure where to start? My latest blog post offers a handy glossary to help you understand key terms and concepts, from polyamory and open relationships to swinging and relationship anarchy.

Psychosexual therapy focuses on resolving sexual problems and dysfunctions within a relationship, enhancing intimacy and satisfaction. Unlike regular couples therapy, it specifically addresses sexual issues to improve overall relationship health.

Walking on eggshells in a relationship signifies an unhealthy dynamic where one partner's controlling behavior creates constant anxiety and stress. While past traumas may influence behavior, they do not justify mistreatment or manipulation. Every individual deserves a relationship grounded in mutual respect and understanding, where personal well-being is prioritized.

Despite their seemingly opposite attachment styles, this pairing often occurs and can lead to a complex yet deeply transformative relationship.